"Dreams are necessary to life"_ Anais Nin
Considering last night I had a dream that I was taken hostage on a double decker bus and all forced to the back on the top deck [where I suddenly became extremely claustrophobic as the bus was at a bizarre angle that made it seem it was falling off the edge of a cliff... it was parked in the centre of town] I have decided to take today's quotation to mean life dreams and ambitions, opposed to the strange workings of the mind during nocturnal hours.
I have been avoiding writing down my feelings the past few weeks; despite it being for the best to write down things to help work through them I have decided against it because I hate to appear as a depressive type who just sits about in a self-pitying state all the time. Today was the day to get that sorted. I sat in the waiting room shaking uncontrollably, barely able to concentrate on one single thought, nervously looking up at the screen waiting for my name to appear. When it appeared I just wanted it to go away; why was I here? I don't have an infection, no lumps, bumps or breakages. I built up my courage and off I went, still shaking like a leaf when I reached his door. I sat down, still not sure after three weeks of thinking about it just how I was going to bring it up. "So what can I do for you today" said the lovely doctor who has been looking after me since I was just a tiny toddler needing a house call. Still shaking, I took a deep breath in an attempt to control the inevitable tears. "Erm.... [the unwelcome tears arrive just in time for me to say] I cry all the time, I cry too much" Well, I suppose that is my problem. I was hoping that with my grammatical abilities I could come up with something a bit better than that but unfortunately not. So I sobbed my way through my doctor's appointment. I refused to self-diagnose and say I'm depressed because I don't think its a term to be used lightly, even after he said it himself I'm still not convinced; I'm just struggling a bit, lots of people are, I just cry about it a bit more than the average person, its just a bit of a sad time in my life. I still have an optimist inside cheering me on, reminding me that I'm not in control of the flawed banking systems, and that its not that I'm not good enough [even at a time when my confidence is at an all time low I still believe that I am an amazing designer, I am good at what I do and any company would be lucky to have me, its just a case of finding a way to show them] but unfortunately the crazy manic depressive running about in my brain has too much control at the moment and just loves to cry. Given the option of anti-depressants or counselling, I went straight for the counselling. I fear nothing more than anti-depressants; life is to be lived and emotions are there for a reason. The tears suck at the moment but it is part of being human to experience them and find a way through; to appreciate life more when they are gone and to feel like you are a stronger person for coming out the other side without fooling your brain in to being happier. And like BT have always said "It's good to talk". I want to understand why I cry more than other people, I want to talk my way through it and learn new ways to cope.
On Saturday night I had my first night out in months. I often forget about my school friends, I put my university friends on much higher pedestals. Perhaps because I feel like I became a different person through university, grew up and felt my life go in a different direction to that of many of my school friends. But having seen them all [well, a select few... some of them really have drifted away from the group] again on Saturday I love them all again. From having so much to drink that I somehow got over my fear of piggy back rides in the middle of a [rather quiet] bar to breaking down and bearing my soul to Ben the psychology friend, it was a rather eventful night. In all honesty I fear I was already drunk before I even left the house, discussing the claret and blue lights on the town hall clock with random people at the cash machine, and then following this with telling everyone I saw... fair to say I am proud of my newly Premier League home team I think.
This weekend is boyfriend weekend so hopefully the week will go fast in my excitement. Although with all the company researching I have to do to send my CV off to every design company in the country [again!] it hopefully won't go by too quickly.
"Hold fast to dreams, for if dreams die, ife is a broken winged bird that cannot fly"_ Langston Hughes
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Libertine91
Although doesn't seem quite so cool when faced with the prospect of it...
I really hope you feel better soon, there is nothing worse than feeling depressed. I got like that when I was fifteen, I was so young and all of these feelings were just too much to take. Counsiling did help me, it's good to get it out sometimes. I took anti depressants too, I was in a pretty bad way. I was so thin and so deeply sad. However when the pills did improve my mood slightly I felt like a failure and hated myself more because I was relying on medication. But different folks for different strokes and as long as you take help in some form, you are taking steps in the right direction. Remain confident and just try to put a stop sign up when negative thoughts enter your mind and keep your friends close. I made the mistake of pushing everyone I loved away and alienating myself. I know I'm a few years younger than you and that I may seem immature but I was in a pretty dark place and I'm wiser for it. I wish you all the best
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